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Published on Friday, 05 August 2011 02:12

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This is a site exclusively for UK men.
Topics of focus include the psychology of women and attraction, dating in the UK, dating sites, online dating, advice on screening, protecting yourself and finding and keeping your perfect woman.

Men are told endlessly by society and women in their families to treat women with respect and courtesy, sensitivity, compassion etc. That ever happened to you? You have a deep, 'relationship-pivotal' conversation with a woman your romantically or otherwise involved with, so you take them at their word, only to find the very next day or week that you're told "Well you shouldn't listen to everything I say". Common male complaint.

We are also fiercely told that out of the pair of us that women are "the prize" and that we should compete for them. You can't hear that, but that was me stifling a laugh because I think the exact opposite is true. Don't agree? Well then why do you always hear women describing a man they desire as a 'great catch', never hear that the other way round do you!

Biologically speaking, men have never competed for 'A Woman', back in the cave men competed for 'The women', plural, there's a fundamental difference which explains why men bother competing for social dominance, it's quite simple, to get the pick of the food and the women.

Women today are indoctrinated to think they should compete with men for careers and that somehow having a child is a cowards way out! It's amazing how prevalent this attitude is in women in the western world. Like having a child and fulfilling a fundamental biological imperative is the lowest of the low. Women don't worship life anymore, they're taught to worship their own vanity.

American women in particular are conditioned to believe the only thing that matters is their looks and possibly their career so they can compete against other women for economic success and that they don't need men at all, unless they want to get married and have a family. Harsh. Most women know this is bullshit deep down which is why even when they are married they still enjoy getting sexual validation in the form of male attention when they go out to get battered with their mates.

No wonder America is the land of the big biffers, there are more lonely and depressed women in America than in the UK proportionately, providing that is you decide to look at obesity not as a disease in itself, but view it merely as a symptom of an underlying, malignant, socially and culturally inherited psychological attitude. You can thank rampant feminism for that attitude. With all it's keen acumen and foresight. Girl power ;)
I am definitely glad women have the vote, I do however believe a fair few of the original suffragettes would be ashamed at post modern feminism and in particular it's paradoxically direct masculine aggression. Bitter-sweet Irony.

In the few paragraphs I have hinted at some problems in perspective that are handed to us by the feminist-centric Hollywood and media types. For men the problem is simply that men aren't shown how to approach and deal with women. Some postulate this is due to the death of the mature masculine role model in all popular media from movies to books right across the Western world. The only niche left that still caters to any kind of masculinity and its Modus Operandi of direct action is sadly, computer games like first person shooter, which explains why they are so popular with men between 12-35 because virtual direct action is better than no direct action at all.

Stop. I know what you're thinking. Don't take it personally. Women make 80% of purchases in Western economies so all popular media is targeted at them. It's not personal guys, it's just business, this is how economics and advertising work. So now you have an idea why every ROM com (in fact 90% of new movies) your live in chick watches never has an example of a mature, masculine man that isn't a abhorrently selfish a-hole. Modern men make the natural mistake of approaching women and dealing with women as if they are other men.
Women are not men.
A woman's brain works differently from a man's brain period. Anyone who says otherwise is lying to you. A woman's biological drives and imperatives are different and hence their emotional and physical needs are also different. Becoming adept at dealing with women simply involves being aware of these differences and not doing women the discourtesy and yourself the disservice of treating women like you treat other men.

If you ever start to feel that torrential barrage of daily brainwashing begin to sink in and affect you remember:
Women compete to attract men and their resources. By the way that's men, that's man plural. Women are naturally programmed to attract as many men as possible and choose the most suitable for procreation. That's not to say that women (and men) aren't capable of exceeding their original biological programming because they are. In fact that is one thing that human beings excel at, mainly due to the amount of post-birth human cognitive development and our origin-societies socialization process.

Men do not compete to attract women and their resources. Women don't have any 'resources' we actually want.
As a drunk I once met so in-eloquently put it:
"If women didn't have c***s, we wouldn't even bother talking to them."
In some cases, this is sadly true, to an extent. I could say it's biological programming that's to blame, that coupled with a 'wonky-donk' social/cultural attitude that's not just biologically and genetically incongruent, it's in direct conflict. I won't say that though as it's not correct in my opinion. As a mature and socially responsible modern man once you're aware of a problem, you automatically have the capability to fix it, as the first step to solving any problem is first recognising you have one. Once you are aware of it, you can't play the ignorance is bliss card anymore, it becomes your responsibility meaning it's up to you to sort it out. Remember bravery builds courage, so man up and deal with it.

Think about how common this is:
Men form groups to accomplish tasks, two men who are on the same team rarely compete with each other within that team, instead they work together to achieve their common goal. If they did compete with each other during say a hunt, the likely result is the hunt would fail and they'd both go hungry. So men don't really compete in groups.
Women form groups for social support, for instance you will see this all the time, two women who are best friends but they are also each others competitor, they're constantly in competition with each other. This isn't deliberate, if you're physically smaller and weaker than those around you then your survival mechanisms will not be based on direct action and confrontation but rather subterfuge and duplicity.
This doesn't mean all women are out to be underhanded and duplicitous, far from it in fact. What this does mean though is that women view the dynamics of 'a team', the concept of 'a team', and their place in the 'a team' very differently from men.
It has been like that for millions of years. All that's happened is that women now have the same resources as men, they don't need to attract our resources as well anymore, just us.
More to the point. Now the welfare state has taken over as 'the provider' and young women have facebook as their emotional nature/nurture addiction as a stand in for many an absentee father. Another devastatingly but true turn of events in the 21st century, as is the fact that the role of men in western society has become thoroughly questioned. Rightly so.

90% or more of all violent crime is committed by men. Any wonder when the poor fools are put through an education system that favours female techniques for learning and not to mention the fact that women take their exams at the same time as men but mentally and physically mature two years or more earlier.
The mid 21st century forecast is a industrial prison complex full of under educated, violent men and a society of desperate and eligible women who are left asking "Where have all the good men gone"?
Again thank the foresight and social responsible attitude of rampant Feminism.

Unfortunately thanks to the social residue left behind from by gone era's of aristocracy and Jane Austin-isms All women, not the super rich ones, but all women grow up reading books, stories and watching TV where many men compete for the same woman. Ha gone are those days!
Probably the most important thing you will ever have to learn as a man, is that there is no scarcity issue. Women are everywhere. In fact women make up 55% of the world population. Women are more desperate than you are to procreate because they have a bio-clock. You have no such deadline. Realistically you could pop a Viagra when you're 80 and still end up being a father if you didn't die from a pulmonary event or cardiac arrest first.
Jane Austin is classic for this: the women eligible for marriage attract suitors of differing resources and chooses which one she will marry. This paradigm hasn't changed in the mind of women. In fact the aristocrat choosing a suitor for marriage is like a more modern and accessible version of Disney princess syndrome for women to aspire to.

However this has resulted in a mixed message in the media, where we are told by women that they want a whole list of things in a man, unfortunately no one gives you a reality check while you listen to this raw, female-centric, reality projection garbage. You should have a voice behind you saying, well you notice how women who get closer to 27 get less anal about their future mates list of particular desired qualities and after 30 she's getting worried as time is ticking away so she'll marry a gorilla if he can put on a tux and make it to the alter on the right day.
Women are in a rush to procreate, men are not.
No hurries? No worries! Never forget that.
It's why women still need to attract men and why the whole farce of female scarcity, females being sought after prizes etc etc is all perpetuated by a predominantly feminist, western media. It's absolute crap. Deep down you know it as well. Listening to a woman talking about what women want is the worst thing you can ever, ever do. Each woman is different, nothing is guaranteed, the only thing you can do is assess each woman on her own merits as she deserves and observe and learn how as an individual she responds to your behaviour.
Advice is helpful but Robert Anton Wilson was right to point out the danger of generalising and making generalisations, the best advice I can offer anyone is start observing how different women respond to different behaviour patterns of your choosing. Learn from what you observe. Repeat until you work out how to illicit responses you desire.

Becoming a master of dealing with women is just like becoming a master of a martial art like Kung Fu. Kung Fu means practice over time to accomplish skill.

The same is true of women. Sure you can learn methods that will speed your development by grounding your practice in proper technique like Vin Di Carlo's Pandora's Box, it's just the same as going to some grand Karate master to learn Karate, your progression will obviously be faster under a masters tutelage than on your own because you can benefit from the sum of your masters experience in the field during your training. Either way though unless you get off your fat ass and make yourself practice you won't get any better regardless of the theory you know. So if you want it to happen, you have to make it happen. PFOB is here to help you, but it will only help you if you help yourself. It all starts and ends with you. It's your life, so unless you're content to sit on the sidelines until your dying breath, get up, get determined and knock it the fuck out.

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